tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2241192549225040333.post2104467115513854974..comments2024-01-14T18:32:50.110-08:00Comments on writing what i can when i can: I will survive Chris Loehmer Kincaidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16831717125652627898noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2241192549225040333.post-6919576268642966842013-06-13T18:26:01.562-07:002013-06-13T18:26:01.562-07:00I used to have a lot of worries and concerns about...I used to have a lot of worries and concerns about my family and my writing. My mother, especially, is prone to use guilt and manipulation, and there has been a climate of "ganging up" on those she wishes to control.<br /><br />Then I remembered that, when I was 11 my mother and brother were discussing the movie Mommie Dearest. She said that if any of her kids were going to write about her, she wanted them to do it while she was still alive to defend herself.<br /><br />I strive to be fair and compassionate. But hiding so much of my truth, so that she won't find anything offensive, hobbled me as a writer. Speaking it, and writing it, frees me to be honest and fearless in all my writing.<br /><br />In the end, I tell only what I need to say, and I do it with fairness. What was done, was done, and it was done to me. i have every right, and a personal need, to explore it, to understand it, and to write about it. <br /><br />Your situation with your mother may be different, but I can understand the various pulls - toward family loyalty, and writing your life - and even wanting approval from her.<br /><br />It sounds like you are very busy, in good ways. Perhaps the writing time will come, when some of these other things have been tended to...<br /><br />I wish you a relaxing and productive summer!Shan Jeniah Burtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01757607146774769663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2241192549225040333.post-61450846967691766252013-06-12T19:09:13.165-07:002013-06-12T19:09:13.165-07:00Yes, Denise, we must do lunch!Yes, Denise, we must do lunch!Chris Loehmer Kincaidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16831717125652627898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2241192549225040333.post-68808773430757392662013-06-12T19:06:18.451-07:002013-06-12T19:06:18.451-07:00Yes, you will survive. I think I will contact you ...Yes, you will survive. I think I will contact you later, maybe we can meet halfway between our homes & do lunch!!!! Which we could both use.Denisenoreply@blogger.com